The Full Guide

After this guide, you will have the discipline required to become successful.

P H A S E 1 : Building Foundations

I’ve spoken about pride and ego previously but it needs to be mentioned in this context. When I go on to speak about what habits build discipline, your pride is going to try cushion you and convince you that you are better than these things. Your pride wants you to think highly of yourself, but pride is not going to let you learn.
Lose your pride and ego and come into this acknowledging you are level 1. I can almost guarantee you that you’ll read that part and go ‘oh what is this I don’t need to do that’ ‘that’s so pointless’ but if you say these things then skip doing the next step then there’s no wonder you never make progress with your discipline. Your ego will prevent your growth.
The reason this is step 1.2 is because it’s what I was speaking about in step 1.1. Discipline is doing the things that you don’t feel like doing. So picking up the clothing off the floor that’s been there weeks. Washing that one pan as soon as you’ve used it. Making your bed every morning. Little tasks that seem like absolutely so base level and nothing to do with discipline. Every single military makes sure you make the bed the second you’re awake. Why? Because it’s a task which you have no desire to do and cannot see some direct benefits from it. That’s the exact reason you do it.
Your ego is bigger than these tasks and will see them as useless and convince you to skip them and cut the corners. Oh these aren’t discipline, these aren’t hard to do. But by telling yourself things like that it should prove to you that you have no discipline. And being able to push away your ego and doing something that you don’t want to do is what discipline is.
I want you to pick 1 daily activity which you know you always avoid and prioritise doing that task. If there’s always clothes on your floor your new task is to never have any clothes on your floor at any point. If you let your bin overflow, then empty your bin straight away. You see I skipped doing these things for the longest time and brushed them off as not wanting to do them. But when you start to do them on a consistent basis these habits which you really don’t want to do - you seem to be able to tackle bigger things that take more discipline with more ease because those little tasks build you some discipline to work with. I’d do it later was my favourite line, trying to convince myself I’d do it at a later date and that was a valid reason to be lazy.
These tiny tasks are things people do not want to do because they seem so insignificant, so start at base level and know your stomping ground.

P H A S E 2 : Overcoming Apprehension

These little tasks are great to build your discipline but we want to move on to bigger things. You need to pick your area in which you are particularly weak at.
People call me disciplined for going to the gym nearly every single day, but it’s not, I want to go so I’m motivated to go, there’s no discipline involved there. The discipline comes from the other specific habits which help my gym progress.
Let's say you don’t like the gym, your first step is actually going to the gym but now it’s been 4 months and you seem to enjoy going, so now you’re motivated not disciplined. So now you have to move onto the next thing, tracking your calories. You hate tracking your calories because you have to weigh everything out.
The more progress you make the less there is to progress. But you have to constantly be levelling up. Really specific tasks which you don’t want to do are going to help your progress. But if you seem to not be able to do any of these tasks it’s likely because you’re leaving the tiny pockets of discipline from step one.
You need to exhaust your daily tasks which you always skip doing and keep going until you do them without thought.
This seems really basic at the moment but you need to understand you can’t run if you haven’t grown legs yet. Overtime you’ll start to recognize your own brain telling you that you don’t need to do something. Every time you finish a meal you put your plate next to the sink because you convince yourself you’ll do it later. These micro tasks are the things that help you grow to be able to tackle the big things like building a business or having a perfect physique. They are big tasks comprised solely of loads of micro tasks. To ensure you continually make progress, the moment you realise these little tasks become second nature and you begin to do them without questioning if you want do, that’s when discipline is no longer being used and you have to add another habit in.
I want you to write down on a piece of paper 3 habits which will take discipline for 3 different areas, like studying, fitness and spending. For example it’s to drink 1 liter of water before you workout, to study for an hour with no breaks and to stop buying clothes before your food shop. I can promise you that as these stack up over the years you will begin to excel in every topic of your habit because you kept adding more and more discipline to it. You have to be more disciplined than the person you were.

P H A S E 3 : You’re On The Right Path

All of this started because I wanted to be the one who comes home one day and can tell my parents they never have to work again.
Their jobs that cause them stress and pain I’d be able to free them and give them the gift of freedom as they gave me the gift of literal life. Repaying the favour to your parents should be your goal. Your dad working 12 hour days of something he hates because he feeds the family and then being able to give him his days back because you were disciplined. You didn’t spend your 20s drinking and smoking and now you have a job you hate struggling for your breakfast.
Discipline is what will let you give back to yourself and the people who provided for you. The majority of people your age will not care to read something like this and because your are shows you are doing what you know needs to be done.
Using a time pocket where you can have a few hours of totally undistracted work IS THEY KEY to completing those hard tasks. There are two extremes that fit into this time pocket, late at night or early morning. If you really work well at 11 or midnight then you should be doing that. If you can get up early and work before most people are awake it’s the better thing you can do.
The whole point is finding time periods where there is no potential for distractions, no notifications, nothing, just you and your hardest task. The reason this is better on a morning is because of something called eating the frog. Imagine if every day you have to eat a frog. Eating a frog is an analogy for doing a really hard task because well you can see how eating a frog is disgusting. If you eat the frog first thing then everything else after that is like a walk in the park, it’s just so easy. Whereas if you leave it till later and keep pushing it back and pushing it back until eventually you have to do it then your whole day you’ve been thinking and stressing about it to where everything else you did in the day was done poorly because you had it at the back of your mind all day. And the later you leave something the less likely you are to do it.
Now you need to figure out what you’re eat the frog task is. Your single greatest hardest task for your work or studies. The single hardest thing you can think of, for a student maybe its exam questions, for me it would be writing these full guides. Not something simple like commenting on a post or doing flashcards.
Starting doing the task is the hardest thing. You start questioning can I be bothered can I do it later but when you get into it and start to focus and enter flow state it feels good. But you need to partake in the hardest thing you can at the time you least want to.
The discipline to be able to ignore all your internal emotions ‘oh I’ll do it after this’, and just do it full out no distraction. Working on something that means something to you is what your dream should be. With the hopeful outcome of this work of being able to provide for your family. It doesn’t matter what you do, it’s how you do it and how disciplined you are to your craft. This is where discipline meets purpose.
Doing something that you know internally is what is right for you is your goal. Not the dream someone has sold you of get rich get a bugatti, use your discipline for a real goal which fulfils real purpose. Your eat the frog task should be a desired task that is internal not external. You need to make sure you’re on the right path. I realise I went off topic there but it was worth mentioning.
Days are made of mornings and lives are made of days. If you win the morning you win life. If you can only choose half a day to be disciplined make it your first half.
Your mornings set you up for the day and when you use your discipline to have no distractions earlier on then you don’t feel the need for distractions. There’s no motivation to be lazy instead you’re motivated to be disciplined. I used to wake up and watch youtube with my breakfast and then wonder why I couldn’t get my mind focused for work. I’d carry on watching youtube for an hour before I got slapped by random motivation of guilt that I’m wasting my time and that’s really no way to live.
Write on paper what you normally do every morning, to the fine details. Then read it back and label your distractions. For just one day, use some discipline and have no distractions until you hit the second half of the day. I then want you to sit and think how you feel in comparison. No guilt, no feelings of worthlessness just internal drive that you are on the right path. To add to this point, if you’re mornings are not right you end up coping by saying that you wasted the morning so you may as well waste the day. The same way as people who binge eat, or even people who fail diets. They cave in to temptation with lack of willpower and discipline and then because they had one piece of chocolate they have to eat the whole cake.
Little decisions set you up for life or they set you up for failure. If you just learn to have a good morning you will notice how your life changes. Do the habits, eat the frog. The genuine feeling of happiness you get knowing you haven’t let any insignificant things get in the way of your purpose and your goal is so infinitely rewarding you crave doing hard work, you crave fulfilling your purpose and your actual life.
Chances are if you’re okay with clothes piling on your floor, chances are you’ll be okay with tasks piling up in your to do list.
If you’re okay with skipping washing that plate chances are you’ll be okay with skipping one task on your to do list. If you’re okay with skipping the corners of life the outcomes of things you do will show. When you don’t do something to the best you can and you think that it’s okay or you think you can get away with it, you internally teach yourself its okay to do it again.
This idea first came to me in college. When kids in grassroots sports (base level of sports for kids to teach them) watch other people play the same sport they take notes whether they voice it internally or externally. If they see an older player punch someone behind the refs back and they don’t get punished there is feedback loops. The player who punched takes a new action, then it goes 2 ways, they get praised or punished. If they don’t get punished it’s praise and they’re likely to do it again or try something worse. If they get fined for it then they learn the consequences and don’t or atleast far less likely to try it again. The same goes with the kid watching. If the kid observes his praise he will likely try it himself then he has his own feedback loop. If he gets punished then the kid will likely never try it.
These acts of aggression in sport can they carry over into life and all of a sudden because one player got away with a punch there’s a kid who grows up to go to juvenile for assault. This seems like a far stretch because you can never actualise actions to phycological ongoings. But when you let something be shown as okay in one place the chances are people think it’s okay in another place.
It is the exact same for your discipline. If you are undisciplined in one place it will carry over into every aspect of your life until you become that undisciplined person.
Excellence in all areas. Pushing for excellence in everything you do will guarantee you success. Lazy habits stack up to make something of poor quality. But excellence in every area makes you better than you thought you could be. Excellence in your work, in your gym form, even in your eye contact. Every single area matters. The person who has excellent form, excellent nutrition and excellent sleep will be better than the person who eats junk, sleeps late and rushes their form. You can’t complain that someone performs better when their process is miles beyond yours.
You need to have a look around and see what you can improve the standard of. Higher standard of little things translates to a higher standard of life and work. Increase your standards of everything over time. Have a think what could you increase the standards of.

P H A S E 4 : Accountability

Accountability is a really interesting one for me because it pulls on the strings of your pride almost and forces you be more disciplined. You’re doing something you don’t want to do, but for the sake of being accountable for your actions. You can do this two ways.
Number 1 is having an accountability partner, preferably someone who knows about your goals or is on a similar path to you. You both make your to-do list of important things that you want to start or keep doing but struggle to do at all or consistently. Then to take it one step further put something on the line. The best is probably money. Loss aversion is 3 times stronger than the desire to gain so technically speaking you're now 3 times more likely to do these things. Write down as many things as you want and for each thing you fail to do you have to give the person a certain amount of money like £5.
Now you might start doing the things for the sake of not losing money but what matters is you’re doing the hard thing. Overtime when that becomes a habit and not uncomfortable to do, you can develop or change them.
If you need to find someone to do this with and do not have a like-minded friend, you can DM us and we’ll pair you up with someone else who also has or comment on our posts to find someone. Not only will this find you an accountability partner but a great way to connect with likeminded people for the future.
The other way to do this is giving advice. Give advice on something you know to someone who could require your help.
Usually when you struggle to stay disciplined you know what you need to do but just aren’t. If you can help a friend lose weight for example by fixing their diet, you’re going to take on some responsibility and act as a role model to lead by example. This obviously won’t work for everyone but if you have someone you know wanting to improve something that you can help, do it to help them and be a good person but more often than not it helps you too.

P H A S E 5 : Discipline In Health And Fitness

If you already go the gym on a consistent basis feel free to skip but I know a lot of people could use some help.
Almost everyone wants to go to the gym. At some point for some reason, most people want to do. But personally, how many people do you know who have told you they wanted to start and either went once or just never went? I can almost guarantee you a few, whether it be friends or family.
The problem is that people see working out as some golden thing they can only start under perfect conditions. ‘Oh well I’m going away this weekend so I better not start this week, I’m working everyday this week so I can’t because I’ll be tired’.
If you genuinely assess what you just said out loud it does not make any sense. You will never feel ready, never feel like it’s a perfect time, there is no such thing, in fact the most perfect time was the second you thought about going. You will never feel 100% certain so you have to push back that little lizard voice stopping you from going right now. You don’t feel ready to workout until you’ve done about 10 workouts, so the longer you wait to go, the longer the time until you feel ready.
This dark cloud you cast over the gym whether it’s social anxiety or not feeling ready won’t ever get cleared until you go. You have to give your brain exposure. Even if the first time you go you just walk around looking or jump on some random machine to not looking stupid you are adding exposure and breaking some light through that cloud.
If you are waiting on some perfect programme it’s more beneficial to just get started, there are some gym plans in ‘workout plans’ to give you a foundation.
Once you actually are in the gym you just need to make sure you have good form to protect yourself until it feels like second nature (I will start making form videos and post them somewhere for you to be able to watch before you go or as you are there ) and read through ‘workout’ in basics and you will be confident and making progress in no time.
Speaking of time, literally everyone has an hour in their day to go workout, this whole excuse of you don’t have time isn’t true. Take a look at your screen time and tell me how many hours you spent scrolling or watching. How many times longer than a gym session did you spend complaining you have no time?
Most people work 9-5 or have school 8-3. If you sleep 8 hours this leaves you with after commuting and eating 6 hours of free time give or take. Lets say you are very busy and you are occupied for another 3 hours, do you really not have 1 hour spare to workout? You and I both know the answer. I’m not trying to call you lazy but at a certain point you have to ask yourself are you making excuses for your own laziness?
Health and fitness is usually where most people first discover the concept of discipline. Doing something you don’t want to do because you know it’s right. Eating healthy even though you feel like it, fighting off the million temptations of convenient fast food and sticking to your goals. Training beyond your limits and pushing yourself especially when you don’t feel like doing so and turning up on those days you don’t feel it.
Doing these things are where people describe going to the gym as mentally rewarding. It makes you feel good about yourself, you did something difficult despite your feelings, if you’re a man you feel masculine doing so. It starts your cycle of recognizing that doing hard things create easier times. Discipline ensures your constant progression and another step forward to your goal.
When you skip a workout or have that junk food that you know you shouldn’t you’re only taking a step away from your goals. Now do you really want your goal to take longer than it can. You should really care about your own goals and go at it with some sort of passion rather than this common attitude of dipping your toes in and hoping for some luck. Results do not come to undisciplined people.
The difference between who you want to be and who you are lies in that lack of discipline in those areas that you know you should be doing better in.
A lot of these influencers these days are doing easy workouts not progressing physically and eating a diet consisting of 200 g of sugar but because it has protein that makes it A - OKAY.
90% of them haven’t made any progress in years and 9% that have are using steroids. This is not discipline. Workouts are meant to be hard, so challenging that you have to reason with yourself if you want to do that extra rep. You can’t take it easy and expect the world.
When you actually push yourself you will make progress and when you make progress you’ll start to understand that if you make sure you are disciplined and striving for nothing short of beyond excellence, this concept of making your goals feel tangible. You can almost feel yourself progressing like you can hold and look at it.
Even people who have been going for years, after their first year or so don’t seem to be making much progress because they’re not progressing their discipline.
Easy workouts as a beginner will see you through but if you really want to build something great, you can’t be training how you used to. You have to adapt to your new abilities and be able to do the really hard difficult things that no one in your position wants to do, that’s how you keep progressing.
As an example your form as a beginner you’ll notice that even if its off you’ll still gain some muscle or even if you slack your diet abit you’ll still lose weight. But as time goes on you need to make your form so that you are in control at all times and only using the muscle to move the weight, not using momentum, and you need to aim for 1-2 reps more than last week every single time you train. If you’re not losing weight but you’re still having a cheat meal every week maybe think that you can’t have it easy anymore.
Doing these things and staying consistent with it is the only way you’ll ever reach those goals that seem unachievable, that perfect physique or that sub 3 hour marathon. Over time it will almost start to seem boring and annoying to not switch up your exercises (which is good if you start to plateau) or to keep just adding tiny bits of weight doing this really slow and controlled form but I can’t express it enough that as time goes on you have to be more strict on your discipline. Those days you feel like skipping it is the days that matter.
Now that all seems very serious and pushy but you will start to feel genuinely proud that you can do these things, that feeling of being an athlete almost or that feeling knowing that you truly just placed another brick down. This is the benefit, not only will you be more physically attractive but your mental health improves with it, a happier person who feels more confident in their self image. And doing these things inside the gym carry over to when you are disciplined outside, it trains your discipline just as it trains your muscles. You will enjoy the pain of discipline as time goes on, and being able to enjoy something that brings so many benefits is truly beautiful.

P H A S E 6 : Discipline For Your Mental Health

When you start to become more disciplined, you realiSe that you have more control over what you think and do. You deny the internal thoughts of your mind telling you to skip things or be lazy and really cut against the grain.
Over a period of time, if you stay consistent, you notice that your emotions do not control you.
Now, in this era of society, it seems to be a given that people act emotionally and act upon how they feel all the time. People get too emotional because they lack discipline and therefore lack the knowledge that you don’t have to act on how you feel.
This carries over to not just doing tasks when you don’t feel like it, but forcing feelings and emotions out and other ones in. You take a 4-dimensional outlook and actually realise you are feeling a certain way and observe, question, and even brush it off - not just letting it consume you.
Now if you can start to train this ability you can take more control over your own life. All your actions are in your best interest and no matter the case you can remain happy.
I’ve noticed myself quite a few times now, either someone saying something rude to me for no reason and instead of snapping back, you stay calm, even be kind and you know what, sometimes they even seem to snap out of their state of anger for a minute. Or someone purposefully cuts you off in traffic and instead of getting angry you just forget about it.
It’s a much happier peaceful way to live when you don’t let your emotions control you. You should be able to control your emotions, not the other way around. Try to manually input the feelings of happiness into your brain when you don’t feel it, force it in and try act as if you were happy, you will genuinely notice you will start to feel happier.
Then if you keep doing this you can just start to think about happiness and you’re already there. It’s going to feel very weird at first you’ll feel like an actor in a circus but I can promise you it works.

P H A S E 7 : The Power Of Habits

When I first started the gym I used to skip workouts to play Fortnite. I skipped nearly every leg session ever because my legs hurt the day after. I rushed sets of my workout because I couldn’t be bothered and I actually used to pretend to myself that I’d done all my sets when I knew I hadn’t. I could not complete a full workout properly.
Fast forward some time and the last time I skipped a workout was on holiday last year where I didn’t go on the final day. I will never leave reps in the tank and can assure you I don’t play Fortnite anymore.
The point is I stopped every habit I used to. I was getting so jealous that people were making progress in the gym and I wasn’t, and believe it or not I was surprised.
The best way make sure first you go to the gym consistently is routines and something called habit stacking. Habit stacking is something from atomic habits by James Clear and the idea is to put the gym on top of some habits already formed until it associates with the habit and becomes a habit itself.
For example getting home from school you have a bite to eat and get changed. If you stack that to you getting changed into gym clothes and you go to the gym at the same time every day everyday you will be way more consistent with it. Then etching that into your routine where you go at the same time every day it becomes a part of your day and lifestyle.
Many times also we skip the gym because we think about the whole picture. Getting there, training, being exhausted, getting home, it comes as a whole package. You have to scale down into individual steps. If you take it literally single steps at a time it takes the pain away from it. If you’re sat at home with the heating on nice and warm and you think about those heavy squats you have to do today then the 30 minutes of cardio. You might start to debate not going because you can’t be bothered to do all that.
If you break it down into a simple get changed into gym clothes, oh that’s easy, fill up a water bottle, even easier. Then get your gym bag - which using habit stacking you can do every morning so it’s already ready for you - then you’re already there you’re warm and you’re itching for your next set. Doing this consistently until the gym is second nature is how you will learn to never skip a workout.
The way I used to do it was there was a gym 30 minute walk from my high school and loads of mates would go there after school and we’d just walk and talk until we were there. I removed the element of being comfortable at home or any thoughts of skipping.
Finding a habit which just leads you there is how you will finally stop even considering skipping and want to go there.
There was a period in time where I first started doing these self-improvement habits and I’d talk to my mate about it you know explaining how I felt so good etc and a couple weeks go by and they come up again. He asks if I’m still doing them and I was saying yeah of course I do when in reality I was just lying because I slacked off.
I’ve honestly never felt like such a bigger fraud almost preaching something that I don’t even do anymore. I asked myself why and it was because I diminished my stack of habits which kept them in place and build a new set of bad ones.
When good habits stop or are inconsistent it’s more often than not because there is inconsistency in your day or another habit has stopped. I started watching p0rn again because I stacked it on another habit and it became a part of a routine. So what did I do? I replaced it with something else and removed the ability to access that bad habit. You see I’d scroll when I got home from college and I’d see this soft p0rn and it would just spark my lizard brain to convince me to open that incognito browser. So I deleted the app. I deleted tiktok off my phone in a spark of motivation and logged off my account changed the password to something random so I could never get back on that account. Now the habit was harder to do, than not do.
More recently about 6 months ago I was getting up every morning and having a cold shower the second I wake up and me and my mate were again both doing this and for about 2 weeks I just straight up lied about doing it because I changed my morning routine.
I know there’s some weird stigma to some people that think morning routines are cringe and ‘oh you’re so different’ but these things genuinely contribute to a better life and it’s not just some bro science it is backed that cold showers for example increase your dopamine longer term. And I stopped doing these habits because for so long they were the same, I was doing the same thing and basically plateaued my progress. Progress PROMOTES happiness.
You will never find yourself happier than when you are progressing in something. So what I really needed to do was progress my routine and make it a challenge to make it harder. When something is a challenge it’s almost like a game and you feel excited to go and try be better every day. I got back into doing my routine and every morning focused on trying to control my breathing better or making it colder or staying in another 15 seconds.
Your habits die because you aren’t progressing them or aren’t letting yourself the time to see the benefits. So here’s your step - get back into your habits, stack your habits again an create routines, then focus on progressing them somehow by margins everyday, little tiny bits to keep making progress and keep getting better.
That way you can never get bored of habits or see plateaus. Habits promote other habits of similar nature as I have previously mentioned. The person who has one slice of pizza is more likely to eat the whole pizza than the person who chooses not to have a slice. When you stack this over a long time period what do you reckon the chances are that the person who takes a slice of pizza has now stacked all these bad habits is OVERWEIGHT and hates himself compared to the person who stuck to their good habits only and is in good shape and happy with their life. It’s very high I can tell you that.
The problem you can’t see is that over the short time span these effects take a while. Like the boiling frog - If you place a frog in boiling water it will instantly feel the danger and risk to life and try escape, whereas if you put it in room temperature water and slowly increase the temperature by just 1 degree it will stay in the water till it boils and kills them. And the longer you stay with bad habits the harder it is to break them but also harder to see how it’s making your life worse because it’s just doing it slowly, day by day. The compound of actions and butterfly effects are real whether you are the frog in the water or not.
Do very small good habits every day, and stop doing bad habits every single day and you’ll be in a significantly better place.
At age 19 now I know that there is people who do bad habits every weekend right now making more money than me today, but I know for a guaranteed fact when we get to 25 that my life will be significantly better. And I’m not saying this to brag, if those people could start on the good habits and I could help them I really would but they’ve had positive feedback loops from these bad habits whether it in the form of making more money, that will keep them on that path potentially forever.
These same people will call you weird for having morning routines or call you lucky when you start to be successful.
I wanted to start this that I’ve just seen an influencer bulking on 5500 calories a day and in that he had a mars bar and a Terry’s chocolate orange. One person commented that a mars bar and a chocolate orange is bad for your health and is just adding junk to your diet for no reason. The influencer was defending calling him a clown and that its only x amount of calories and loads of other people jumping down this guys throat because he said chocolate has no nutritional value it’s just sugar and calories.
This really made me think that people think if it hits your calories no matter the food everything’s just going to be fine. These people are the ones in 10, 20, 30 years suffer with real serious health problems because they were eating junk every single day and have some serious coping mechanism that just because they go to the gym they can eat whatever they want.
You can absolutely build a great physique eating bad foods but there is more to life than the gym body. What about your genuine health, how your body runs and works.
I want you to watch something, an actionable step. On youtube search Fat chance 2.0 there is a link here if it works - CLICK HERE
This has taught me more about nutrition than the entire education system. It’s a long video so feel free to watch it in segments but if you watch it all through to the very end you will be very grateful you did so. It will tell you the real impacts on your body of foods that you don’t see surface level.

P H A S E 8 : Disciplined In Success

When you implement all these tactics of small disciplinary changes like quitting porn, alcohol, doing meditation, working out and practicing on improving your quality of life you will experience success of some form. You’ll start to feel happier, you’ll get that girl, you’ll get that physique, this is when it matters the most.
You see when you reach your goals or achieve what you’re aiming for it’s very common to take your foot off the gas. You eat the fruit from the seeds you planted in the past, but now you indulge and stop spreading seeds.
You see the tasks which got you to the goal in the first place, if you stop doing them once you reach the goal, you will only brick down lower than you started. Your ego wants to have its ride.
This happened to me, I cleaned up my diet I lost that fat then because I got down to a superficial number, I decided it was time to eat junk again, ruin my health, ruin my physique and start over again.
I meditated 10 minutes every day for months, and I got a clearer mind, started to appreciate life more and so I stopped. I started going back into bad habits and feeling more lost and sad.
These things not only get you to where you are they maintain it too. But even more than that I forgot that I was happier than when I saw results while still making progress.
The reward for discipline was never meant to be materialistic goals, being disciplined and fulfilling your purpose is your goal. Desires that form in your mind will lure you away from what’s more important.
A lot of the time you can peel back these desires to some childhood thing that really stuck with you. Maybe you didn’t get invited to parties as a kid so now you want to be rich to party and you are now making that your life’s sole purpose.
Success brings you freedom and 1 day off is fine, but to stop, simmer or sink would be a bad way to celebrate.
I started self-improvement to be able to get rid of my awkwardness and talk to girls, now I really feel like I could provide value and make a genuine impact on someone’s life.
Even before I experience any level of monetary or status ‘success’ I’m aware of this and hope I don’t fall for the trap and choose to stick to progression rather than twist and stay at superficial level of success.
When you learn the benefits of staying disciplined and reaping rewards of doing the hard things you will naturally feel like you want to get your family and friends on this and help them in some way.
They might tell you they want to do this or that and you try to help them but they don’t seem to able to do it.
You have to lead by example and hope they get inspired to fix their lives too.
My brother recently came to me interested in what vitamins he should take and how to get more energy and I cannot describe how it feels to truly help someone like that. I’d like to think that I inspired him in some way.
You can help your loved ones by leading by example.

P H A S E 9 : Relapse

Over a time period you will experience what feels like downs. Little dips that seem like everything is going wrong and the ship is sinking.
If you’ve ever lost weight you’ll know that the scale is not consistent and you go up and down constantly until you zoom out and realise that over weeks or months the progression is there.
When I was trying to quit my porn ‘addiction’ I used to watch it every single day sometimes twice. It was really bad. I was hyper sexualising everything making everything a scenario in my head. When I finally tipped that scale for activation energy and stopped watching it, i felt great. However, I kept relapsing. I’d stop for 5 days then I’d watch it again, stop for 2 weeks watch it again, stop for 2 days watch it again, you get the point. I desperately wanted to just stop. What I failed to realise was, I still made progress.
Every month I was watching it less and less. And I was slowly changing my self image but I was still beating myself up about relapsing.
Until I started to convince myself that I just don’t watch it. I would say it out loud physically if I ever felt the urge and every time I said it I was putting some weight in the side of the scale that would make sure I stopped.
See I managed to convince myself I was a version of myself who didn’t watch it. And every time I resisted it, I really did just become that version of myself.
The point is, when you experience downs, the last thing you should do is get mad about it, this only leads to a further decline. Stick to the plan and stay consistent, don’t forget your reason for starting.
You will always have bad days, the important thing is to not act upon them. Accept you might have that dip but bouncing back from that dip is how your progress.
If you experience a lengthy dip in progress all you have to do is define the problem. If you haven’t been to the gym in weeks, write down why, physically write it and you brain will start whirring until it spits out the reason. Then keep asking a question to every answer like ‘why am I skipping?’ ‘Oh I got bored’ ‘okay why am I bored’ ‘I’m just not seeing gains quick enough’ ‘Hmm okay am I sleeping right, eating enough and making sure I progressively overload?’ ‘oh no I’m not’ Then there’s your answer. You can define your problem then all you have to do is go fix it.
When you lose your discipline to do something, it’s because you weren’t disciplined with something else. Then start easy again until you’re back to where you are. Being able to answer those questions yourself comes down to trial and error. Keep asking until you find your answer, it will be there.

If you are reading this there is a real reason. Close your eyes for a second and think about why you started this. For whatever reason it may be just think why. The reason I started is because I wanted to be better at everything I’d ever been good at. I really wanted to improve myself and improve my life, and now maybe it’s a new chapter of educating other people how to do the same. Keep in your mind where you started from and use that vision of your progress to propel you further. Best of luck. Become Perpetual.

Discipline has many different definitions, but it all boils down to doing the hard work, even though you don’t feel like it. Discipline isn’t just doing something hard; it’s specifically doing something which you don’t feel like doing.
I want to start this off by saying there is going to be a lot of techniques and actionable steps to put into practice here. If you read them and for whatever reason think, I’ll skip that and try something different, you should not be surprised you are lacking discipline. No matter how small or big the task, if you don’t feel like doing it, that’s why you should do it. If you do really want this to help you need to use these practices suggested because they are proven to work if you do them consistently.
Discipline is made of 3 parts:
Motivation - DESIRE to do something.
Discipline - PERSEVERANCE of a task which you aren’t motivated to do.
Willpower - RESISTING the temptation of doing something you feel like doing. I’ll make a separate guide on willpower because in my opinion it’s the greatest of the three.
Going to the gym motivated means you had the craving to go to the gym; going to the gym disciplined means you didn’t feel like going but you went anyway and used willpower not to lay in bed all day.
Motivation comes and goes which is why discipline is so important. Discipline is a skill, it can be trained and it is here to stay in your body forever; it’s perpetual.
Having discipline means you are willing to wait and practice delayed gratification rather than settling for instant gratification.
The thing about today is by growing the smallest little bit of discipline you are ahead of 99% of the population. Like many people, I used to indulge in instant gratification, essentially rotting my brain minute by minute, hour by hour.
Spending all day just living this constant need for instant gratification led to a purposeless life. I was addicted to being lazy. If someone would even murmur the suggestion I spent too much time on screens I could admit I did, but I was so deep into it I would just say ‘okay and?’ I didn’t see the connection between my bad habits and my problems. Until it was shoved in my face, and I finally realized I’d been living from high to high.
A lack of discipline is a sad life to life.
Discipline is the most ultimate form of self-care.
Discipline will always pay off; there is no scenario ever where discipline is not the best option. Your brain’s attention span is just too short to recognize it. In the long run of life, being undisciplined is more painful than laziness.
Imagine your brain as an older person when you question yourself what if. What if you just cared about yourself a little more? All these consequences you get from your poor life habits, you deserve to feel the repercussions of it. If you eat unhealthy every day, you deserve to feel that sharp pain in your heart until you get admitted into the hospital and are forced to live with some stint keeping you alive.
This sounds harsh, trust me, I know. But you want praise and consequences of your good actions so why shouldn’t you get it for your bad ones? Life doesn’t just give you a free pass for your bad habits. Life has no remorse, so if you treat it badly, it will treat you worse.
Over this whole guide, I may ask you to do an actionable step. Something which needs doing at that moment you read it no matter where you are or how you feel. Funnily enough, just by doing this act, it will build discipline.
You see the difficulty with discipline is you need to have patience.
Discipline is doing actions for the future, the future payoff. With that being said doing these disciplined things look and feel for a while like they have no effects, because there has not been enough time.
Discipline is playing the long game, and stacking up those coins over a significant period of time, and if you stay disciplined over a long period of time, that’s when the results appear to be some overnight success.
There’s a story about 3 friends in ‘the compound effect’ by Darren Hardy I’m just going to tell you about. 3 friends that grew up together in the same neighbourhood each make around £50,000 a year. They’re all married and have average health and weight along with the bit of marriage flab. Friend number one, plods along life, thinking he’s happy or at least pretends to be. He complains about things occasionally but never does anything to change it. Friend number 2 however, starts making some small positive changes in the right direction. He reads 10 pages of a good book a night and listens to 30 minutes of an audio book or podcast on his work commute every day. Friend number 2 wants to see changes but doesn’t want to make a fuss so makes some small changes. He’s also decided to cut just 125 calories from his diet, which in his case was swapping the can of coke or whatever he has at lunch for a bottle of water, no huge change there. He also starts walking a few thousands steps more a day which takes him about 20 minutes if not less. He keeps them simple so he can stick to them easier than anything bigger. Friend 3 (for the sake of simplicity I’m going to change the story a bit), stops off at mcdonalds everyday on his way home from work and gets a small mcflurry which is an added 125 calories a day. 6 months go by and there is no visible differences between the 3. 12 months go by and you still cant see any noticeable changes. 18 months go by and that’s when you can see very small changes between them, friend 2 is looking a bit slimmer in the face than friend 3. Skip forward to month 31 and all of a sudden you have 3 entirely different people with entirely different lives. Friend 3 over the span of 2 and a half years is now 33.5 lbs fatter, he’s on his way to serious health problems and his marriage is not going well. Friend 2 however is slim, athletic looking, 33.5 lbs lighter than he was and has 67lbs less fat than friend 3. He’s also applied the knowledge from the over 1000 hours spent learning and he has earned himself a promotion with a raise, aswell as his marriage now happier than ever. Friend number 1 on the other hand is living the same mundain life he always has, just more bitter about it now.
Granted I know that this example seems extreme but if you keep all the other variables the same, not to mention the fact that friend 3 is more likely to make worse choices, the results will come over time.
The moral of this story is little things which seem incomprehensible to make any difference will compound up to make something larger than you thought. Discipline can be deceiving.
You may be practicing these good habits and have been doing so for 6 or 12 months now and seem to be in no better place than the people who don’t go to the gym, watch tiktok for 6 hours a day and take drugs every weekend. You have to give it more time because another 12 months down the line, if you stick to being disciplined, you’ll start to laugh at how you thought you weren’t making progress.
After about 2 years of training properly I’m only now just seeing the benefits of being more disciplined in the gym than the people who slack their diet, training and health.
The point is good things take time, and if you don’t broaden your vision to work past the horizon, you won’t stay consistent and reap the benefits.
Something further to add is that by skipping tasks that require discipline there seems to be no negative effect. With this no negative effect immediately there is the feedback loop again which rewards you not doing the task. Skip the task - nothing bad happens that I can see - Skipping is okay - continue to skip and skip other things. The point again of discipline is it makes changes which you can’t see. Blindly being disciplined through what seems like no benefits is where you find success in that area.

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P H A S E 1 : Building Foundations

P H A S E 2 : Overcoming Apprehension

P H A S E 3 : You’re On The Right Path

P H A S E 4 : Accountability

P H A S E 5 : Discipline In Health And Fitness

P H A S E 6 : Discipline For Your Mental Health

P H A S E 7 : The Power Of Habits

P H A S E 8 : Disciplined In Success

P H A S E 9 : Relapse

P H A S E 0 : Introduction

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