It’s a myth. The use of this term in the context it’s used is stupid. Accepting your flaws and never changing or improving.

Weak humans cling onto comfort. Change is uncomfortable because its unmarked territory, something you are just plain unfamiliar with so you don’t have confidence in doing it.

So it’s easier to try and accept flaws because its harder to make the change. This is what separates the successful from the average, they are willing to make the change.

There will always be, no matter what, a rational voice going, you are unhappy, I don’t want to be unhappy, let’s change this.

People really think that if you try hard enough you can just accept your flaws and be happy.

Take body image for example. How confident are you in yourself ?You get people who are obese telling you to love yourself, this is danger of the direction of society.

When you are obese, it’s not attractive, that isn’t subjective, it’s factual. Therefore they cope with this idea of self love because they don’t have confidence. I understand the concept behind it I just don’t understand why you’d choose it.

You lack confidence in something, so instead of building the confidence, you tell yourself a million times that you are satisfied with how you look and you aren’t going to change.

To build confidence, especially in your appearance, you have to take the actionable steps like exercise which will improve the way you look and slowly build your confidence.

Moreover, glorifying a way of life which is so unhealthy is ignorant. It increases the risk of very serious diseases and ultimately death.

Obviously when these insecurities can’t be changed it’s a different story. If it’s permanent and you can’t do anything at all about it, that’s when you accept who you are.

The main problem with this idea is fake self-love is not real. No matter how many times you say it, no matter how convincing you seem, you aren’t being truthful. Pretending, acting, because deep down you know you are not happy with it. So why try to accept what you can change, just go and change it.

If you are overweight and do not like it, then do something about it. Exercise more, eat less, simple.

In fact, ironically, the only form of self love is changing what you are unhappy with, not accepting it.

You teach yourself to become happier through work, to build something meaningful to you, not coping for a weak mindset. To providing yourself with real fulfilment, not distracting yourself from discomfort, but facing it and crossing the bridge. No matter how many lies you tell yourself, that inner voice will remain until you do something about it.

Self love should be doing what’s best for you no matter what, to become healthier in mind and body right. Improving yourself is self love, not pretending you don’t care.

I can guarantee you would be happier if you changed it, worked towards it, as opposed to saying ‘this is me, i’m happy with this’.

If you want to succeed, change is your friend and comfort is your enemy.

Set goals for yourself that you would like to achieve.

If you want something to happen, you need to create a goal, something that you can think of or see everyday. If there is a problem, pick the opposite and set it as a goal, it’s not difficult.

If you an to get into shape, workout. Check out our workout section. We also have meal plans and workout plans made for you. We’ve made it easy for you.

If you want improve your academic performance, become more productive. We also have full guides on productivity and tools you can use.

In essence, set goal and work towards it. You’re not going to succeed in life without knowing what you’re working towards.

Once you have a goal you actually need to work towards it.

Cutting up your goal into actionable steps or stages to reduce the amount of friction is key. This makes it easier for you to stay consistent with your goals.

The lower the boundary for consistency, the more consistent you will be.

Therefore, don’t fixate on the end goal, take it a day at a time.

Now all you have to do is execute your plan.

Just take it step by step, day by day, and work towards improving yourself.

Stay accountable, remember why you started the journey in the first place, to escape discomfort.

If you don’t change, you will live with discomfort.

Would you rather the pain of effort, or the pain of life long regret?